After A Break-up - Take Care of You
Posted: Thursday, November 04, 2010
by Jel
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Getting dumped really sucks. And it has happened to all of us at one time or another. Your self esteem is shattered beyond belief and the rejection you feel after a break-up can stir up many unwanted emotions and feelings. It is very easy to feel angry at yourself, your ex or anyone or anything that you feel caused the break-up. It is also normal to keep asking why this has happened. As was my experience; my partner dumped me and did not give me a reason. If you are hoping to win back your lover, your best possible chance is get rid of your negative emotions and rebuild your shattered self esteem.
Do let negative thoughts take over your thinking. When you start to feel anger rising within you, switch it off and think about something positive. Do something positive. I am certainly not saying that you cannot feel these emotions, you need to acknowledge your anger, grief, sadness and this process happens shortly after the break-up. However, when you are working on yourself in the hope of winning your ex-lover back, it is really in your best interests to shut off your negative emotions when they arise. Imagine yourself flushing them down the toilet, which is where they belong.
Exercise is an excellent way to create a positive attitude within yourself. A good thirty minute walk or run, or a session at the gym will release those feel-good endorphins into your brain. This will encourage positive thinking and motivate your to keep exercising, because it makes you feel good. Why do we engage in sex with our partners? Simple answer there; it feels good and we feel good about ourselves. Many counsellors recommend exercise to people who suffer from depression, especially if they are not on anti-depressants. The endorphins that your brain releases do the same things that anti-depressants do, the only difference is the chemicals in your brain are being released naturally which is much better that relying on medication.
Get in touch with your friends and ask them for help in working through your negative emotions. Most likely you have done this and they know what you are going through, so they will understand and be happy to help. Make sure you explain that you might be calling on them on a regular basis and that it is okay if they unavailable to listen to you. Chances are though, your friends will be calling you regularly after a break-up to check on you and make sure that you are okay. It is very important that you try your hardest not to discuss your ex-lover or the break-up with your friends too much. It is very likely that all they are seeing is that you are hurting and they will not be able to be objective. If you need to discuss your ex or the break-up you should really consult someone who is objective, such as a counsellor, your parish priest or your doctor.
Getting rid of your negative emotions and rebuilding your self esteem is one of the best things you can do to get your ex-lover back. You should not be calling him or her, or trying to initiate any kind of contact. You need to distance yourself from your ex and get your life back on track. In doing this, you will become more attractive to your ex-lover as he or she will wonder why they have not heard from and they will be curious as to what is happening in your life. Once you have re-built your positive attitude and outstanding self-esteem, you are now ready to formulate a solid plan to win your ex-lover back.
Copyright © 2007 Janelle Coulton
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